It’s a lot harder to come up with good groomsmen than it is to find suitable bridesmaids. This is because, no offense, guys are a lot less responsible than girls. This means that they may be late to the wedding, the best man may forget the ring, they may be hung over from the bachelor party, and the list goes on. It is really important to stress to your fiancé that he needs to choose wisely and think about which of his best buds and family are the more reliable.
Of course, from there, he will have to choose his best man who will have to most responsibility. It is not inappropriate for the groom to choose his second to best friend to be the best man if he is the most responsible of the bunch. Of course, he shouldn’t pick his third cousin just because he’s a lawyer and the most reliable man alive. It is still important for him to pick someone he will really enjoy having as his best man.
Needless to say, the groom can pick how many people he wants- even if his attendants are more, or less, in number than the bridesmaids. It really doesn’t matter if the sides are asymmetrical- just as long as both the bride and the groom have everyone they wanted as their attendants. Remember, though, the same rule applies to groomsmen as bridesmaids- do not have a dozen if you are having a wedding of just 75 guests.
Groomsmen are very similar to bridesmaids in the fact that they are in charge of paying for everything they need for the wedding. This includes attire, accessories, travel arrangements, etc. The groom can help with some of these costs if he wants, but the attendants should know that they will be expected to pay their own way.
Just as with the bridesmaids, it is really important for the groomsmen to be thanked for the help that they give the groom. Let your fiancé pick out gifts that he finds suitable for his friends. You shouldn’t try to persuade him to get something different because only guys really know what guys want. Of course, it is okay for you to give him a spending limit so that he doesn’t break the budget you have set up.
